Red-Headed Step-Child

November 10, 2008

See the Beauty: Editorial

Filed under: Announcements,Editorial — Candy Lemmon @ 6:14 pm

This is an impulsive blog. Van and I have been away from SL and the blogging scene for a few months and I’m returning with several review posts to share. All of them are complimentary and enthusiastic, like everything that we take the time to photograph and write. If you’ve read the feed today, you may know why I feel compelled to speak.

It may be just be because of my time off, but I don’t understand this new trend of criticizing someone’s style of blogging, particularly for being positive or reviewing something you think is of a lesser quality. It’s some-one else’s personal expression, hard work, and point of view that you’re attacking! Who has the right to judge taste level, sincerity, and completely subjective concepts like “quality”?

I didn’t read the SL Secret, but I first noticed this whole “pooping rainbows” movement when I was browsing Efemera Bisiani‘s posts, catching up on some of what I’ve missed with a beautifully photographed and stylish blog. A colorful post caught my eye, full of comment activity (I assumed) because of the great look – instead it was all related to a seperate blog post by JellyBean Madison “Walk of Shame – Bad Blogger, You don’t get to play!“, a point by point editorial. In it she criticizes the designer’s ability, questions his reviewers honesty and judgement, and is openly insulting to those who would disagree. I personally found it incredibly offensive and viscious, especially the cheap shots hurled at the creator. An honest opinion is one thing, but there is nothing constructive about that kind of criticism.

Talking down to your audience, insulting your peers, that doesn’t make you an expert. People run their blogs for different reasons, in different ways, and of course you’re going to love some and hate the way things are done in others. I’m not even asking you to keep it to yourselves, because I love discussion and I’m curious what people really think about things – but keep some perspective! Your personal opinions about quality, about subject matter, they aren’t universal. Enough with the sarcasm, we’re all here for the fashion and no-one’s sense of style is so elevated that they’re able to speak for everyone. There is no standard of practices for the second life fashion community, and there’s room for us all to do what we love. Why spend so much time writing about what you hate?



  1. Good criticism is an art. It should leave the people criticized feeling positive and with ideas about where they want their work to proceed. If it leaves them feeling anything else they have failed as being a critic.
    As a RL artist I have found it a rare thing to find an effective criticism. More often it serves the purpose of the critic not the creator.

    Comment by shelbyrasmuson — November 10, 2008 @ 6:44 pm | Reply

  2. Hiyas Candy – I’m so happy to see that you shared your comment from my blog. I can’t thank you enough for giving this topic more exposure. Keep up the great work! Luna

    Comment by Luna Jubilee — November 10, 2008 @ 7:43 pm | Reply

  3. /me stands up and claps. Welcome back, Candy :D

    Comment by Dahlia Eilde & Nicolas Sinatra — November 10, 2008 @ 8:20 pm | Reply

  4. O Hai!

    I agree with what you said however I also stand by my post. Re-read it and you will find that I also did NO attacking in my comments. I said what I needed to say in my post and also added “in my opinion”. I know that I do not speak for the virtual population and what I say is most of the time an unpopular opinion. However, I didn’t coin the phrase “poopin rainbows”. Just sayin!

    Comment by JellyBean Madison — November 10, 2008 @ 11:19 pm | Reply

  5. Welcome back, great post.

    All the blogs on the feed have something to say, if I don’t like it I just scroll on past. I blog what I want when I want just for the sheer fun of it. I don’t have the secret blogger’s handbook for SL, I didn’t go to blogger college, I don’t have a blogging license, although I do belong to some blogging groups and my spelling is top notch. Who the hell really cares? If I made someone smile or made a new friend, right on. That’s what SL is all about for me.

    I don’t pay no nevermind to bloggers that are self-absorbed, bloggers that have blogged for a while and proclaim themselves Queen-Of-All-Knowing to deem what other bloggers should do, be or think, bloggers that go on and on in public rants about their feeeeeeelings about their drama, bloggers that use the term “dropped on me” at the beginning of each post, bloggers that talk Plurksmack in code about the designers they just gushed over, or bloggers that try to “educate” readers on fashion when we know they are sitting there in their skivvies eating pie living in po-dunka-dunk.

    You can just tell the difference between people who do it because they love it and people who do it to relive some psychological loss they are trying to compensate for.

    Comment by Shelby Ziskey — November 11, 2008 @ 1:18 am | Reply

  6. hi, this is completely off topic, but what is the name of that hairpiece with the butterflys? I have it somewhere in my inventory, but i cant remeber the name or where i got it from.

    Comment by delaney whippet — November 11, 2008 @ 2:42 pm | Reply

  7. Thank you everyone for your comments!

    Shelby: That was very insightful, I’m glad you shared it here.

    Luna: This was an excellent, provocative discussion you started and I’m happy to be a part of it. I wonder what you’ll say next?

    Dahlia and Nic: Is it wrong if I secretly love being applauded by hot couples? Hehe. Good to be back!

    JellyBean: I have to say I’m a little shocked to have you so agreeable here in the comments, and I appreciate it, ’cause the wrath of J.B. Madison is respectfully feared by many (including me). I must have missed where you included the phrase “in my opinion”, I certainly didn’t mean to color your remarks as anything they weren’t intended to be. I definitely still feel it was too harsh to be helpful, and disagree with the suggestion that the ways others blog is wrong or inferior. That said, we’re all used to the Mean Girls style of honesty and we usually enjoy what you have to say – I think that’s why I reacted to this so strongly.

    Shelby: Hear, hear! Condescension doesn’t impress, it alienates. I think there are some bloggers who don’t realize this is a community, not a clique.

    Delaney: It’s from Minajunk! :D

    Comment by Candy Lemmon — November 12, 2008 @ 9:49 am | Reply

  8. This is a great post Candy! I hadn’t been seeing any of this stuff because I glance at the feeds and only read when I have time which I just don’t. You’re on my blog roll and I saw you posted Flickr so I came and was delighted that you had posted and posted something so eloquently written! Welcome back!!

    Comment by Cerrie Janus — November 12, 2008 @ 4:27 pm | Reply

  9. Awww, how could I miss such a sweet comment?

    You’re always awesome Cerrie, and it’s really nice to know we were missed a little. Thanks for being here.

    Comment by Candy Lemmon — November 17, 2008 @ 5:10 pm | Reply

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